Tired Dreamers Club

April 25, 2019

If you’re following me on Instagram, you may have seen me promoting Tired Dreamers Club. However, there’s a chance you don’t know what it is —probably because I’ve barely spoken about its origin story. Unlike most of my projects, this one came about quickly. There was no major planning, plotting or thinking involved.

Except the root of Tired Dreamers Club stems from feelings I’ve been working through for some time. As mentioned in my last post, I’ve been creating online content for ten years. I felt wiped out after working insane hours, juggling many hats, and becoming a mom. It was time for a change. For the past two years, I’ve been focusing on my self-care needs more. I was putting my life before my work (whenever possible). It’s something I’ve been too afraid to do in the past. I’d glorified being exhaustingly busy. What surprised me is how my creativity thrived when I took more time for myself. It was a lightbulb moment.

My best friend (who happens to be a marriage and family therapist) Dr. Cassidy and I often text each other about grand ideas for things and then follow it up with, ‘But I’m too tired.’ We’re both very busy working moms and we’re often too depleted to make our dreams a reality. Cassidy joked on a recent text, “We’re just two tired dreamers,” and I followed with,”Ya, we’re part of the Tired Dreamers Club.” And then ideas started to flow.

So What’s Tired Dreamers Club?

To thrive creatively, we need to pay close attention to our needs. We must be thoughtful and intentional about our self-care. The tortured artists may have their place, but for most of us, that idea isn’t going to work, nor is it healthy. It’s about acknowledging that when we’re struggling to make good art, it probably means that there are areas of our life that need nurturing. Taking care of ourselves is not going to take away from our creativity, but spark wonder and joy in ways that will only help our art. When you’re feeling too tired to make things, it’s time to step away and focus on you.

The idea quickly accelerated when I was working with Sézane on co-hosting an event in Los Angeles. I didn’t want to do an event where we just mingle and shop. I decided to pitch The Tired Dreamers Club to them before we’d even decided this was going to be a thing. They loved the idea, and within one week, Cassidy and I had to come up with a meaningful gathering that would not only bring attention to our (very) new project but also find ways for creative women to connect on a deep level about their struggles. Thankfully, it was a success, and we’re already planning more events.

We hope that TDC will offer a unique perspective with a creative director and a therapist for you to engage with. What’s most exciting to Cassidy and me is how collaborative this “club” is already feeling within a few short months. Many of you have been commenting, sending us DMs and emailing us about how excited you are. It feels like a safe space where we can shed light on a lot of the feelings we have when it comes to our creative process and how we can work through it together.

Here are a few things we’re working on:

  • We started an email list. Once we get it set up, we will be sending the majority of our content to you through email.
  • We have a private Facebook group that we recently started that we hope will be a safe space for all of us to connect on. Many of you have asked about events or meetups with other “Tired Dreamers” in your area, and I think the Facebook group will be a good place to start that.
  • We are planning more events. Make sure to be signed up for the newsletter and follow along on Instagram to learn more.
  • We will be making guides and many other takeaways for you. If you have any you hope to see, please send us a DM anytime. Cassidy already made a wonderful guided meditation that you can download for free.
  • A few of you mentioned a TDC retreat. We love the sound of that.

Thanks for always following along with all my big ideas. I don’t know where this one will take me, but I’m thrilled to be along for the ride.

*Top artwork by Alja Horvat